A Catholic Understanding of Suffering: One of the Most Amazing Things I’ve Learned
My most recent Catholic theme seems to revolve around suffering. The idea keeps emerging in the books I’m reading, on Catholic radio, in homilies and more … and wow is it a revelation! Catholics hold to the idea of “redemptive suffering,” which turns the traditional understanding of suffering on its head, making it a positive, wonderful thing (bear with me :), I’ll explain in a minute).
While I’m not undergoing any true suffering myself (thanks be to God), it’s certainly a topic I’ve always grappled with and I think many nonbelievers do, as well. How could a loving, merciful God allow suffering?
Let’s start by saying we can’t know exactly. Afterall, we cannot know the mind of God, at least not until we reach our glory. That said, there are some clues to the meaning of suffering that we can follow. Let’s start with the greatest suffering of all time: Christ on the Cross.
Christ suffered unbearably, through torture, humiliation, mocking, and what must have been pain beyond belief. Yet, did you notice the greatest good of all time that it produced? Salvation for all who accept it! What can we learn from this? Suffering = Good.
Crazy, I know.
Here’s another clue. If you study the life of the saints, so many of them underwent great personal suffering, especially bodily suffering. Why would God punish them so? Perhaps because it’s not a punishment, but a gift — a wonderful thing.
I am reading a book right now that is the diary of a woman named Elisabeth Leseur who lived in the early 1900’s in France. She is up for sainthood but no progress has been made as of yet. Elisabeth, who was subject to much suffering — both mental and physical — looked upon this suffering as a way to “work” for God. She was married to an atheist, whom she loved dearly and whom she deeply desired to convert, but instead he argued and dissuaded her in her religion, causing her much personal grief.
She says repeatedly in her diary that words and actions do little for her hopes and desires for those souls around her, but rather suffering, prayer and mortifications (fasting, enduring discomfort, etc.) do the greatest work. So instead of complaining or arguing with her husband, she kept her sufferings inside and offered them up to God for the work of converting her husband. Can you imagine the power of using that same principle for problems in your own life?
This reminds me so much of my dear confirmation saint, St Therese of Lisieux, who gave glory to God and worked to help souls — those of unbelievers, those in purgatory, her loved ones — in her “little way” of doing small acts of sacrifice for God. She too says that prayers, combined with fasting and almsgiving/charity are the quickest way to make your prayers heard.
Elisabeth desired to do much more with her life, but instead was confined to bed for various illnesses throughout her life. She determined that God’s true vocation for her was to “work” through suffering, which she was able to do so well by offering her sacrifices and all works for the intentions of others, so often for those in purgatory.
I recently was watching Super Saints on EWTN with Bob and Penny Lord in an episode about St. Philip Neri. It was said that he too offered many masses and prayers for the souls in purgatory, and when he arrived in heaven, they all greeted him, sharing that they had been praying for him since getting to heaven in gratitude for his kind prayers for them. What a wonderful thought!
If you’ve hung on with me this long, let this be some validation of suffering as the greatest “work” for God. Upon Elisabeth’s death, her long atheist husband converted to Catholicism, and not only that, he became a priest and was the one responsible for publishing her diary that it might help others. I find that to be a true miracle, but one that I have no doubt God granted for Elisabeth’s tireless work.
Let me end with this paragraph from Elizabeth’s diary, so eloquently put, moreso than I can:
“Union with Jesus Christ, which we shall realize in Heaven in joy and vision, is already possible for us on earth in suffering. That is why all souls in love with Jesus, those souls that have heard the mysterious and irresistible call of Christ, love suffering and, far from rejecting it with an entirely human horror, ask for it, desire it as the sweet forerunner of the Master, as that which ushers us into His presence. It is suffering that reveals the Cross to us, that opens the divine Heart to us, that enables us to enter into this supernatural world that no human thing can reach, which we will know only in eternity, but from which a glimmer shines over us through the grace of suffering and the radiance of the Cross.” — My Spirit Rejoices by Elisabeth Leseur, Sophia Institute Press, 1996.
[…] been reading a lot about redemptive suffering, or the idea of letting your suffering “work” and have benefit for other souls, and […]
Born/baptized Catholic, 12-year Catholic education, now 61, lacked perseverance many times, ie, lapsed but returned with MUCH and increased fervor each time.
– First 30+ years, VERY dysfunctional homelife, ie, severe emotional suffering. (depression /suicidal thoughts)
– 2nd half, 30 years of physical (daily chronic, often debilitating (excruciating) pain conditions AND emotional suffering. (intermittent depression, anxiety)
– Accepted my physical conditions / limitations.
– Received ALL the sacraments except Holy Orders.
– Wore holy medals, have holy water nearby, tried reading the Holy Bible, did MUCH Catholic reading, watched EWTN, had spiritual counseling, Crucifix on wall, bought and spread devotion leaflets, primarily Divine Mercy.
– Offered my life and death to God. Prayed to do His Will.
– Fasting, not much desire for consumption. Consume too little to maintain good nutritional health. Self-deprivation is an ill-health AND economically-inflicted way of life. Much almsgiving is ahead.
– Confession, Masses (Sun. and daily), Receiving, visits to the Blessed Sacrament, First Friday Adorations, Spiritual Offerings/ Prayers for the Souls in Purgatory, Devotions/Novenas, prayers galore and prayers said for me.
– Determined to live a sinless life.
– Offered sufferings and sorrows. Empathetically shared in Christ’s Sufferings.
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Yet my life is a living hell!!…and filled with over-whelming spiritual warfare that often leads to despair..despite intense Faith and praying while it is taking effect…hopelessness,and then abandon all.
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– Prayers: silence. Prayers for peace, consolations, and guidance not answered. Totally alone, prayers for physical help not answered.
– I just don’t know what to think or do anymore.
Addendum:
– ALWAYS believed in the 4 main dogmas of the Catholic Faith…and ALL Catholic teachings…and agree with all.
– Gave donations.
– Forgave cruel people without them asking or even knowing.
– Prayed for everyone, including unknown to me.
– Prayed at dying peoples bedside, known and unknown.
– Gave thanks to God MANY times for what He has given me and thanks for the ills and trials that I do not have.
Maybe in the end, God will at least consider my sufferings to be Redemptive…and have Mercy on my soul.
ps: – Helped people in need. Helped people in general.
– Helped animals, including food, water, protection, and medical treatment.
– MANY grueling times, I defended God, Jesus, Blessed Mother, the Catholic Faith, the Pope, and all that is holy…against hate-filled atheists and antagonist former believers.
– I am definitely a sinner, not worthy of Heaven. And have MUCH contempt and hatred for my sins and the evil one. And MUCH sorrow for my sins.
Yet, I am at the dire end of knowing what to think or do anymore about persevering…at which I fail.
Thanks for “listening.”
Hi there-
Sounds like you have got it rough! Have you ever heard of what St. John of the Cross called “the dark night of the soul”? It seems so many saints experienced similar trials as you are where they did not feel the presence of Jesus at all and felt all alone. Mother Teresa said she felt like this for many, many years and my confirmation saint St. Therese of Lisieux also experienced such a “dark night” at the end of her life.
This Catholic newbie’s humble opinion is that you are spiritually advanced and a saint in the making and Jesus chose you to experience such a “dark night” for the benefit of yourself (I’m betting you have worked out any purgation that you personally needed) and others. He believes you are strong enough to handle it and will reward you greatly in heaven.
But I’m sure hearing that and actually going through it and two entirely different things. All I can think of is one of my favorite sayings, “Sometimes the only way out is through.” I have no doubt your suffering is benefiting others here and in purgatory GREATLY! I will pray that your dark night ends soon and you experience the love and the joy of Jesus Christ again. I think you are doing everything right — just one foot in front of the other during these hard times…
A couple of thoughts on things to read… Have you read The Flame of Love? It’s a church approved revelation (that might not be the right word) from Jesus and Mary. Jesus asks of Elizabeth Kindelmann, who relayed the message, complete relinquishing of all things pleasurable to her that it might benefit others. I think you would find this book comforting. You can get a free copy at http://www.myconsecration.org.
Have you done Total Consecration to Jesus through Mary? If not, that would assure you that the merits of your sufferings, good deeds, penances, etc. are being given to Mary for her to distribute according to our Lord’s will. 33 Days to Morning Glory is a good book to help you through this.
I might also suggest you read my blog about Father Ron Rolheiser’s book The Holy Longing, where he explains all things in this life go unfinished and it’s not until we get to heaven where we get our great reward. I giving away a copy of his book too if you comment there.
Let me know how else I can help! I will be praying!
THANK YOU SO MUCH, LYN!
I NEVER expected a reply, and yet so promptly. And more than that, SO helpful and VERY encouraging throughout!
Yes, I think that I have it oddly rough, most particularly after my VERY dearly loved husband’s / soul mate’s passing. (We will ALWAYS be married.) And I want to be with him SO much.
Pray and all as hard as I might for almost 2 years, God has not answered my prayers for relief from continuous over-lapping problems/stress, or physical help, or to keep the evil one away…so then I lose perseverance.
And as I mentioned, I am totally alone despite extending myself for friendship many times.
And I have no family.
No acquaintance will lend a hand, and no one will take the time just to talk…BUT they do offer plenty of UNnecessary FREE advice, like: take medication, see a counselor and a bereavement counselor.
Been there, done that…but none eliminates the emptiness due to the loss of my husband’s affection, or helps me with handyman’s work.
And if I hear “join a craft club” one more time, I will scream!
And UNLIKE you, no one here has ever taken the time to care…and especially SO extensively and SO wonderfully!
Yes, I am somewhat familiar with St. John’s dark night of the soul, and all. I read about that decades ago, but don’t remember much. Anyway, I never considered myself to be that “worthy.”
I will read again.
As for Purgatory, decades ago I asked God if I may have my Purgatory on earth. (perhaps I am?)
With my pains, I could think so…but not with anxiety, depression, and despair from the evil one. (unless that’s my battle? tests?)
Throughout the years, Priests have also told me that I am doing everything right. But I know that I am not when I stay away from Mass and abandon all, including prayer, due to despair.
Yes, many years ago I prayed the Consecration to Jesus and Mary…and read the Flame of Love.
And I prayed many types of prayers and devotions for “guaranteed” perseverance. But…
Well, you certainly have reminded me and given me a lot to read, which has fabulous guidance.
And I am very, very grateful to you for ALL!
Thank you SO much for being there.
WRITE any time.
I KNOW that God is blessing you!